The pandemic has brought its sad results, which was to be expected - restrictions on movement and forced separation have destroyed many coup...
But everything turned out to be even sadder for those who tried to maintain relationships at a distance: online conversations cannot replace personal and physical contact and gradually cool down passion and feelings.
So, the love story is over, and on the eve of Valentine's Day, it is even more painful to realize. But you can survive it! Suffer or find the strength to perk up? Each person has their own solution.
Let go of your guilt
Breaking up brings a sense of grievous loss and global bad luck. A recent study published in the scientific journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin highlights the fact that self-esteem plays an important role in coping with separation.
If you are convinced that the relationship fell apart because you did not cope with the situation or because "something is wrong with me," then you are doomed to long-suffering. The best option is to take the following position: everything turned out the way it should, and that this person is simply not for you.
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Why does it hurt so much?
American anthropologist Professor Helen Fisher from Rutgers University (New Jersey) has been studying the chemistry of relationships and the reactions of the human brain at different stages of falling in love for many years. Helen Fisher is convinced that love is a physiological need, comparable to hunger and thirst. At the stage of intense passion, love becomes a form of addiction, almost like a drug.
For this reason, when the relationship ends the experience has a kind of cancelling effect. As with drug detoxification, you must complete this process by “clearing” your ex-partner. Only then will you be ready for the next stage.
Second chance or a clean slate?
If this relationship is really so dear to you, you should probably give yourself and your partner one last chance. However, you should both want it and honestly agree to no more than one attempt. If the desire is one-sided, and not mutual, then, as you understand, it will not lead to anything good.
What about February 14?
The special circumstances of 2020-2021 have their pluses and minuses. The need to limit contacts as much as possible and not to arrange festivities is a plus. In such a situation, it will be easier for you to avoid awkward questions and unwanted gossip behind your back.
The downside is that you won't be able to get distracted and have fun, think about other things, and get a chance to meet new people. Well, well, great - you will have the opportunity to communicate only with the closest people who are able to understand and support us.
Self-love
Valentine's Day is a great holiday to celebrate self-love. If earlier you allocated a certain amount from your budget for a gift to your loved one, now you have the right to please yourself.
Since you cannot go on a trip (by the way, where would you go alone?), Then try to change your style, image, or buy a new dress to "walk" it at the first opportunity. The sadness and grief from parting will not last forever (as, indeed, the pandemic), so we will all inevitably return to our normal life.
This Valentine's Day is a celebration of joy and hope. Therefore, it doesn't matter if your faithful knight is with you. It's just that any such holiday is a good opportunity to turn the page and start all over again. Who knows, maybe in 2021 a new love awaits you, the most real one, and not the one that you left behind.
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